I didn't even want to bring that up, but yes, I think that some boylovers should re-examine their assumptions about sexual recovery, just as I think some recovering offenders should re-examine their assumptions about boylove. That's my main reason for not wanting to provide an alternate home page. On the other hand, when people are hurting . . . You see my dilemma. On "boylover" – I think the main problem with the term is that, like "pedophile," it contains certain connotations that may not apply to the person using the term. I can't tell you how many times since I started my research I've had the following conversation with outsiders: Me: "I've been working with boylovers." Outsider: "Oh, you mean those NAMBLA people." Heather |