Well you see...
Submitted by Some guy in the NW (aka Jesus lover) on August 09 1999 at 02:15:52
In reply to Re: Depiction of love.....? Submitted by Ben on August 07 1999 at 10:01:38
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Hey everyone, What freaked me out was the way that the child "feisty" had initiated the lip kissing. I agrees that it is not big deal. At first I freaked out, because the way that he started kissing me, and he did it in front of his family, but I had never experienced that close of intimacy in my life before, so fir me to react they ways that I did is understandable and his father understood. So in his understanding he asked his son, to stop kissing me on the lips. The boy didn't totally understand, but is very obedient and obeyed. Now I have no problem with it because I also was paranoid of his fathers reaction. But his father didn't have the reaction that I had feared. There is more beyond just the act of kissing, you see feisty told me he wanted to kiss me the way he was going to kiss his future girlfriend, and tried to give me long 2-3+ second kisses (he also started to stick his tongue out during the extended kiss [I wanted no part in that level of intimacy]). You see I have no problem with pecking him on the lips, but he was going past my level of comfort, and I have observed that he doesn't kiss anyone else like that. It just made me uncomfortable. I didn't tell his father what I have stated here because I really don't want to freak his dad out. I would like to go back to kissing feisty on the lips sometime in the future if he is cool with that, but only pecks on the lips and nothing else. Combine the above with the fact that when I went in the restroom once (with his permission) while he was showering, he opened the curtain (fully exposing his 10 year old body) and asked me to not only bathe him but to shower with him aswell. So I feel that for me to set boundaries with him and his parents do the same, it is only best and healthy for him to learn that it is not good for his to do that, because if does that with someone that actually likes it and enjoys it, he can end up getting abused/hurt or sexually abused and I REALLY don't want that for anyone especially him because he is like my little brother and I really love him allot. I am very lucky to have the relationship I have with him and my/his family. I truly love them all not just him. He has also, I dunno if this was in a jokingly behavior, has asked me to take him with me home, because he really wanted to hang out with me and spend time with me, I told him that he probably couldn't do that, since I work and stuff and I said that I really didn't think that his parents would want him away that they would miss him and stuff. He said he didn't care and he wanted me to just take him with out asking and I told him I could never do that, and when he asked why I said that he and I would never be able to see his family again and that I really loved his family and that they meant too much to me. (Thank god that was the end of that conversation!) What do you all think? Peace and love in christ, david, SGitNW (Jesus LuV) |