Dear GOL, Thank you for what you said. The first time I read it my faced turned red and something flared in me. You touched a nerve. But, you are right. I have listened to the wrong people for too long. I have read the wrong things. Almost 3 weeks ago I stumbled on this forum and for the first time began reading something that I could understand. Maybe that is why I have been so moved, along with God's grace, to make the change. For the first time I don't see my love for boys as being evil. The love I want to give them is out of the love I have for God, and the love God has for me. I don't want to hurt them or abuse them; I just want to love them. Ok. But the abuse of myself is just that: abuse. The way I see it; if it hurts, it's abuse. I was hurting myself. I was hurting my relationship with God and His Son, Jesus Christ. That is what I have to stop. I want to walk in His path from now on. I feel as though you have written that I should lighten up a little (or a lot). That is what I am going to start doing. Quit getting down on myself so much. I will let God lead me on my way back to Him. Thank you. If I missed the boat on this please let me know. A brother in Christ, Brian |