Response to Pamela
Submitted by Ben on October 26 1999 at 18:50:38
In reply to Reponse to Ben Submitted by Pamella (BlackWolf) on October 25 1999 at 21:32:06
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Pamela - First, I apologize for making a presumption about the motivation for your work. Indeed, you have every right to fight for a good cause and to enjoy encouragement from others around you. Dealing with the pain of your own childhood abuse by helping others is a very positive way to channel the emotions. Even though you probably don't want to share any sense of 'kinship' with a pedophile (or maybe you do...watch the presumptions, Ben) we have alot in common. The anger that I harbor over things that happened to me as a child and also as an adult, the sadness and loneliness that come from loving something that you know it is wrong to love, also needs channeling. Fortunately, I was never molested as a child, so perhaps this is why my outlet never became abusing boys. Instead my outlet has always been in enjoying their company and being able to help their lives. We (and MANY MANY others in this forum) are fortunate to not be driven to molest children as OUR outlet. However the same passion that you and I both feel for our 'outlet' is felt by those who are driven to molest boys as their outlet. Imagine the power of your desire to help and hopefully you can have some empathy for those whose desire is less favorable. It doesn't mean that they should be permitted to molest children. But it does mean that they also need an outlet. Perhaps this forum has been that for some. Ben |