I didn't mean to discount the experiences of ex-gays. Mel's story really resonates with me, since I feel that people who were meant to be gay or BLers are severely harmed by those who think they just aren't trying hard enough to change. I read the link you gave, and found it interesting. I can accept that there are people who were once gay but now feel that being straight is who they really are. I don't think being straight is what I could really be. Mark |