point man
Submitted by F.O.D. on November 15 1999 at 14:41:41
In reply to Re: desire for intimacy Submitted by Faith Elliston on November 15 1999 at 09:32:22
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Yeah, for sure it can happen that parents will misdirect the sensual feelings that they might pick up from their children. That'd be what happened with your step-father, for instance. For extra homework, you (the reader) can think about the question of when this does happen, whether throwing the father in jail (as seems to be the usual solution today, if a complaint is made) is the best way of dealing with the situation. I think the book I was reading was called "Point Man", published mid-90s. I don't remember the author's name, but I guess it would be easy enough to find in Christian bookstores, especially "evangelical" ones. The main idea of the book was a comparison of the family to an army squadron running through enemy territory, with the father being the "point man" who leads the squadron through and makes sure they get to where they're going safely. Another point I thought of later about my relationship with my YFs, I found that though I initially tried to think of our relationship in "father-son" terms, as we grew older together more and more it became a "friend-friend" sort of relationship. I remember at one point we somehow reached the point where I never had to act disciplinarily towards them, and after that point life was so much nicer with them. Peace to you, Fod |