Age of attraction?
Submitted by Jules on March 03 2000 at 11:59:17
In reply to The issues defined? Submitted by Forgiven on March 02 2000 at 18:13:27
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Hi Forgiven! a) a BL will inevitably lose his love for his YF when he passes beyond the BL's Age of Attraction Okay, here's an argument to try against that: "What about heterosexual attraction? Doesn't that also decline with the age of the beloved? Surely there's a difference between sexual love and sexual attraction. I can't imagine any man being "sexually attracted" to a seventy-year-old woman, but I can imagine a man wanting to continue a sexual relationship with his seventy-year-old partner because of his love for her." Well? Immediately this brings out the difference between those BLs who would be happy in an adult gay relationship and those who wouldn't. You're obviously in the second category, and so am I. If adult gay sex were an option, then the relationships we are talking about can, even should, continue into adulthood on the basis of love. However if adult gay sex is not an option then either: (a) it's okay for a previously sexual relationship to become non-sexual, which is what often happens to experimental same-age boyhood relationships :-) or (b) there's something wrong with sexualising the relationship in the first place. Option (b) seems best because of some of your other age-difference reasons. With love, Jules |