Re: Truths behind theology & Biblical interpretation
Submitted by Luke on March 04 2000 at 14:52:59
In reply to Truths behind theology & Biblical interpretation Submitted by Ray on March 03 2000 at 03:34:30
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I hope that my comments, such that they are, do not alienate or typecast me as a 'troublemaker', but there are many points you make that I must say I aggree with. However, having said that, there is one in particular that I wanted to expound upon, to see if there is any comment or reasonable arguement to support my working to change my attitude. You speak of the "open relationship" in some gay couple's partnerships. I myself am currently in just such a relationship, although it has been quite some time since either of us has taken a lover outside of our relationship. The way I view this may be surprising to some, or maybe even blasphemous, I do not know, but it has helped me come to grips with my sexual nature many times. First, we as a couple are not jealous of each other. Part of my happiness, (when I am happy), is in knowing that he has had a pleasureable experience, whether or not I was included in it or not. I would be the last person to set limits on the number of pleasureable moments he should or should not have during his lifetime and far be it for me to judge him or set limits on what he is 'allowed' to do and what he is not. He is a grown man, perfectly capable of making wise choices with regard to not only his own health and safety, but mine as well. I have taken a long time to learn it, but I do not believe his ultimate purpose is to "make" me happy, or otherwise be held responsible for my degree of happiness in life. He also feels this way towards me. He knows the absolute worst about my past, and loves me not in spite of it, but because I trusted him enough to be brutally honest with him from the very beginning about it. We have lived together as a couple for a little over ten years, now. Compared to my past, what I know of his is like vanilla pudding. All his friends and family bear this out, with regard to his veracity. As crazy and twisted as it may sound, I honestly feel I love him more than myself. I have not liked myself for a very long time and I am sure there are those who will say it is impossible to love another without first loving self. Be that as it may, his life, happiness and welfare are foremost in my mind all the time. This was made very clear to me a few years ago when I almost lost him to a sudden appearance of a major heart condition. Terror, to me, at this stage in my life, is even thinking of being left without him by my side. No, he is not a "God" or a father figure to me, although his age could place him as such. Sorry for rambling, I hope I made sense in there somewhere and that this whole epistle was not an entire bore. BTW, I am sorry there seems to be a preponderance of people here who feel that gay sex, as such, is entirely illegitimate. It is my belief, that with enough 'research' and text taken from context, one can 'prove' or 'disprove' anything using the Bible as the ultimate authority. Luke |