In Therory
Submitted by Ford Prefect on March 17 2000 17:45:21
In reply to On being a loved boy submitted by Rex Infinity on March 17 2000 15:32:11
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Hello Rex, Theoretically, were I to realize that a boy I knew reasonably well had the attraction to me that you had for your teacher, I'd explain to him the dangers I think are involved in such a relationship rather than simply shun him. From the stories I've read on BC over the years, the pattern I believe I've seen is that real trouble is much more likely to develop if there's sexual expression between a man and a boy who really know each other than in a casual or one-time encounter. There's a certain irony to this, but I believe it may be that as the boy grows older he can dismiss the casual encounter, but has to deal with the more intimate relationship in a much deeper way.....and it may well be more than he can handle. Essentially, he'd be asked to deal with the same very difficult issues of identity, right, wrong and condemnation from others that produce so much anxiety in many of us. In fact, though, I've surprised myself so many times that I know better than to state with certainty exactly what I'd do in situation like the one you describe. ---Ford |
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