Boy Love & Falling Out…
Submitted by Andy on April 08 2000 12:16:10
In reply to Boy love as a means of God's grace?? submitted by Forgiven on April 08 2000 03:43:54
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Hi Forgiven, I read with great interest your comments here, and in the prayer room about your attempts to communicate your feelings and elicit answers from your pastor, and your feelings about your relationships with boys. I discern that you have a great desire to direct boys toward a meaningful relationship with others… something which you feel that you have not been able to attain for yourself. It would be a wonderful thing to find a pastor who could give you answers to your dilemma. The one you have turned to now, apparently doesn't have these answers, and, rather than admit that he doesn't have them, chooses to brush you aside, or wishes that you would "just go away." I can't imagine anyone going to Jesus, when He was here on earth in the flesh, being brushed aside because He didn't have an answer for them. Apparently your pastor is too proud to admit that he doesn't have an answer for you. In my opinion, the least he could do would be to admit that he has no answer, and offer to pray for you or with you to find the answers you so desperately need. Perhaps you need to put more confidence in those of the assembly who seem to be more sympathetic, and ask for their prayers on your behalf. I can see that your desire is to find someone with the strength of character to guide you, as you would like to guide boys to be staunch supporters for the cause of Christ, but you don't want them to have to face the same dilemma that is apparently plaguing you. I, too, find that my relationships seem to develop with the youngest boys in a family. It's a burden of love not to be taken lightly, and one in which I am constantly in fear of making mistakes. I continually pray that I will make the right decisions concerning their welfare. I have found many answers (but not all) by studying the scriptures and by reading of the experiences of others here at CBF, and thank God for that. I don't have a church home presently, but do, on occasion, attend church with a boy who looks to me as an example and mentor. Have you noticed that, although tradition dictated that the mantle and inheritance pass to the eldest son, that God usually found a way for that inheritance to bypass the eldest and go to the youngest in a family? God's peace & grace to you, Andy |
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