Re: Breaking the news
Submitted by Oliver on May 02 2000 22:57:52
In reply to Breaking the news submitted by ChoirBoy on May 02 2000 01:13:04
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Hi there, I was in a relationship for three years with a young lady who was very open minded. In the midst of dating her, I discovered Boylove and what it meant. I didn't know enough about it at the time, so I didn't know how to confront anyone about it, most of all her. We lived in the same apartment complex; she was over at my place all the time, and there was pleanty of opportunity to tell her, but I never did. She moved away and we had to break up about six months after I discovered BL. I didn't feel secure enough about it at the time to tell her; I wish now that perhaps I had. It might've made our relationship stronger, and I think I could've trusted her to know my deepest darkest secret--she had shared some of hers with me more than once. I would say that telling your fiance` about your BL is important, but how comfortable you are with it largely depends on how secure you are with yourself and that you struggle or embrace being a boylover. You have to define what it is for yourself before you can expect others to agree with your testimony. I'm not sure if you're a Christain or not, but comming to this board, I'm going to share the faith side of the coin here too, if you don't mind. Rememebr that mairrage is a sacred bond. God made them man and woman and the union of these souls existed before sin entered the world. God highly regards this bond; it is sin to break it. I don't care about secular statistics, God's word is clear on the stance the two become one. With that in mind, your struggles will be your wife's struggles, weather you tell her about them or not. They can make or break your mairrage. My suggestion, then would be to simply pray about this. Pray that God will give you the wisdom to decide how to handle this. Let His Loveletter (The Bible) be your guide and his convictions on your heart your answers to the questions you seek. Third, remember accountability. Jesus had 12 desciples as his accountability partners. I think this board is a good place to keep in check with those who share your stuggles. Please, continue to post, respond, and learn what others have discovered or been inspired by to share here and on similar forums. Use your ability to relate to boys for God's glory, be accountable for those actions, pray about them and who to tell about, discover your own person with regard to BL, and you will be in a godd mindset to decide or how or if to approach your significant other with this and other issues. Hope this helps; I'll pray for you too. Blessings, Oliver |
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