oops, here's a better one
Submitted by F.O.D. on May 14 2000 02:16:40
In reply to Advice please submitted by Jules on May 13 2000 09:18:15
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One site you might be looking for is Free to be me at www.freetobeme.com (not to be confused with www.freetobeme.org... ;) ) Their precise goal is tell help young people deal with same sex attraction. Their longer term motive is to help adult people reject same sex attraction, so take that as you will. They seem nice enough. Apart from that, I'd ask him to think about consequences of sex. The obvious one is possibly of pregnancy or disease transmission, which I'm sure he knows about, but he probably says "it'll never happen to me". Help him to appreciate that it could very easily happen to him, if he starts sleeping around with lots of people, especially if he's too "cool" to use condoms. The less obvious consequence comes from the bonding to happens when two people have sex. He doesn't need to be religious to appreciate that. If he keeps sleeping around, he'll keep forming these bonds then smash them apart with the next sexual partner. "Splintered heart is a phrase I like to use to think about the result. Or if he finds sex is not a "bonding" thing for him, then basically what he's doing is using someone else's body for self-masturbation. How does he think the other person feels about being used like that? Something worse on the side which seems to often accompany promiscuity is greater use of drugs (I've read an hypothesis that AIDS better correlates with drug use than with gay sex. That is, in the early days of its spread, all gay men diagnosed with the disease had also been using drugs to help sexual performance). Does the kid really want to burn his brain out for the sake of an orgasm? Keep us informed how it goes, Fod |
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