Re: Desperately Needing Advice

asp - Don't worry about being blunt. Your questions are the right ones and the ones that I know to ask myself. Initially, her son will not be attractive to me (he is too young) so my hope is that, in time, that I would develop some attraction to her. When her son hits a certain age, I will most definately be more attracted to him than to her (it's unavoidable). I will not have a problem with temptation to act on this (other than the possibility of fantasy and masterbation...which is of more detriment to me and to her, than to him). On the other hand, I know that having a son in the relationship would 'hold my attention' for long enough for me to grow close to her. Otherwise, it is unlikely that I would put enough into the relationship to develop that attraction. I know that, if I can make the relationship work, that his life will be far better than it could be without me. But someday Jennifer and I will grow old, and I may have trouble holding onto someone who is only marginally attractive to me. You are not alone. Ben