On Lustful thought
Submitted by Huck Finn on May 31 2000 02:28:27
In reply to so many questions submitted by shonen on May 31 2000 01:36:23
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What you stated brings up a good question-- one that I've struggled with, come to grips with and then questioned... and then strugled with, come to grips... you get the picture. But ok... What is lust? Is it looking at someone saying, "WOW (s)he's cute!" Is it looking at someone saying, "WOW (s)he's sexy!" Is it thinking, "I wish I could be like that person." Is it thinking, "I love that person." Is it thinking, "I want to have sex with him." Is it picturing someone naked? Is it actually seeing someone naked? Is it getting aroused at seeing someone (naked or not)? Is it falling in love with someone? Is it wishing you could hold someone? Is it kissing someone? Is it hugging someone? Is it fantisizing about someone? Each of us has a line (or a hierarchy) on the "lust-o-meter." But I offer this: There's a fine line between love, sex, and lust. One can lead to the others, or one can stop the others. You can love someone and it can lead to lust and sex. But you can love some one and that could keep you from having sex with them (as a lot of us BLs have experienced). On the other hand, sex can lead to love and lust... and in some cases, lust can lead to love. But we all need to be careful of these lines. Love is something we are supposed to do. Love your neighbor. Love your God. Love each other. Love your wife. Love your children. And yes, Sex is good. It's a means made by God to strengthen a bond (between a husband and wife). But it has been clouded. And then there's lust. Jesus said that Lust is sinful. "If you do so much as to look at a woman lustfully, it's as if you committed Adultury with her." [paraphrase from the Sermon on the Mount] So we have one thing that is made by God to be good, one thing that is made by God that can be good but also bad, and another thing that is considered by God to be bad. Love (good), sex (good/bad), lust (bad). So where is the line drawn? Saying that someone is cute is not a sin! If you think someone is cute, that's ok. God made us with eyes to see His beauty. Sure you may get a "sexual thought" in your head. That's ok too... It's called temptation. When does it become lust? When you choose to allow that thought to become part of you. When you sit and dwell on that thought. When you take time to enjoy that thought. But if you push that thought away, it's not lust. It's resisting temptation. And sometimes we can't push it out of our mind without some help-- from others and from God! I hope this is helpful. God Bless you all. Huck Finn |
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