Re: Knowing *how* to say no
Submitted by Daniel48 on June 05 2000 23:48:13
In reply to Knowing *how* to say no submitted by Ford Prefect on June 04 2000 15:06:47
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Many here have vowed in one way or another not to have sex with boys. This should always be the rule without exception. Yet, as the story of Rex tells, as the story cited below on BC tells, as the stories of Tygyr and Adam TBK tell, how we handle the situation of a boy who does want sex can be crucial. Having been there and through all of that, {pardon me if I sound cold and lacking in compassion}, this that I learned while muddling through my self induced confusion during Sex Offender Treatment while I was incarcerated for being sexual with a boy..... the end of this is that we in what ever form of this delusion we find ourselves, put ourselves in the situation with the boy child to appear to us to want to be involved in our sexual play games. If we weren't putting ourselves into their lives in the first place, full well knowing that we want any self justification to violate the privacy of their bodies for our own sexual gratification, then they couldn't read what we are silently telling them that they would want to please us at any cost to maintain the level of companionship and affection they have, i.e. being the objects our our undivided time and attention, often privately, even to the concession of having things done to them that they normally would never agree to from any one. It's clear to me from these stories that a quick rebuff can make it very difficult for the boy and leave him wondering what he did to deserve it......maybe for years. A quick rebuff that can make it very difficult for the boy . . . what in real life can be more difficult for a boy for many years after than being used sexually, I might ask? These things do not come from any form of God honorning love for a child, whether male or female. True Agape love for a child seeming to lure an adult companion into sexual play would look that child straight in the eye and say, "Aboslutely not, I love you too much to agree to that!" What are your ideas on this? I believe it wise to think about this before it happens (even though we probably think it never would) so we wouldn't be as likely to give in to some knee-jerk reaction that hadn't been thought out at all. Simply put, if your attractions to boys is sexual in nature, don't put yourself in a position to where it can seem that your younger play mate wants to be engaged in any form of sexual actvitiy that you must tell him "no," to. I am in a situation where I could unexpectedly be alone with a vulnerable little one. I know with no doubt that once alone it would only require a few minutes . . . because he is already asking to come to my private area woth me. He is being refused and is not being harmed a bit. |
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