I'm the same way
Submitted by ChoirBoy on June 08 2000 00:42:32
In reply to Long Introduction submitted by Dunstin on June 05 2000 19:02:40
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Dunstin, It's amazing how many people there are that have had the same kind of experiences as me. I've always enjoyed playing with the children at family get-togethers, general parties, and even at my roomate's house and my girlfriend's house for Easter more than I liked talking with the adults. I feel that I'm naturally good with children, and people have commented as such to me. While no one has come out and said anything, I have still felt this kind of overall general feeling that the adults thought it strange that I should spend so much time with the kids. I don't think it's strange at all, and neither do the kids. I guess they welcome the fact that a "grown-up" is taking an interest in them and actually listening to what they are saying. Too many times I have seen an adorable kid trying to tell his parents something only to be shooed away and/or ignored. How frustrating that must be for him, and how happy he must be when he finally has someone interested in what he wants to tell him and who spends time with him. Personally, I don't have any sexual attraction to children when I am around them. I just enjoy being with them and playing with them. It is definitely an emotional rather than a strictly physical attraction. My advice to you would be to not shy away from spending time with kids, just make sure that you don't do anything inappropriate (and I don't mean just hugging!) with them. If your aunt doesn't like it, then try not to upset her and back off a little bit (better to retain family relations, even if you are doing nothing wrong). I don't think anything is wrong with you. You seem to be searching for the reason why you like spending time with children so much. I don't think it has to do with psycho-babble or repressed childhood or any such nonsense. I think the plain, simple answer is that you are different from other people in the same way that most of us here on this board are different. And I think it is people like us, who have been given this gift of being "really good with kids", who make the best mentors and role models for those kids we really care about and, dare I say, love. ChoirBoy |
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