doesn't fit
Submitted by F.O.D. on June 17 2000 03:31:39
In reply to Poll for the weekend :-) submitted by Forgiven on June 16 2000 20:44:34
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I've got siblings, and I had fine relationships with peers as a teenager, many of which friendships continue even today. In the first instance, I believe my attraction to kids comes out of a deep empathy with them, from being a "sensitive" sort of guy who remembers how he felt as a boy, and from his own experience is able to relate to what other boys are going through. Most adults seem to forget what it was like being a kid. Another side comes from recognising faults in the way kids are brought up, especially the lack of affection often shown to boys. So, seeing that failure in society in general, I make a conscious decision to improve the situation by deliberately daring to give affection where I have the chance to do so. A third factor, and I'm not sure how valid it is but it seems to make possible sense for me, is that I was not "allowed" to develop peer homophilic relationships, because of the religious and social objections, and so I sublimated my gay nature by developing relationships with boys instead, since it's "okay" to be close to a boy in a way that it's not "okay" to be close to a guy your own age. It'd be interesting to read a comprehensive survey covering all of us. My suspicion is there are as many "contributing factors" as there are boylovers. What about relationships with mothers? I heard recently BL inclinations might arise from screwed up relationships with mothers (not fathers). I've got an...interesting relationship with my mother, so maybe it fits. But then so do my brothers, who aren't boylovers. It'd be worth having some hard data to validate or invalidate these sort of assertions or patterns. Fod |
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