coercion
Submitted by F.O.D. on July 24 2000 15:20:13
In reply to Re: elusive rifts submitted by maggie on July 22 2000 12:15:32
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That's sad about the boy being "forced" to be gay, against his own wishes. I would want to always respect what a person thinks of themself, so if they'll say "I don't want to be gay", they'll have my support in meeting girls or whatever. As for theories of sexuality, and touching on your question on it's fluidity, I tend towards the theory that everyone is "bisexual" to various degrees, that people fall in love with whom they fall in love with. (the appropriateness of various expressions of that love is a separate question). For that reason I find nothing surprising or threatening at all about the ex-gay movement, insofar as they are saying if you want to be interested in girls, then be interested in girls. For me personally, I don't have a rigid definition for falling in love. I'd like to have a relationship with a peer, so you have the strength of two adult minds working together. But I've fallen in love with boys (and my personal theory is that I've got close to boys because of the "ban" in getting close to guys my own age), so maybe that's a kind of fluidity. But there are a couple of girls I know that are a little interesting too. So for me the question is not "Could I have a relationship with a girl?", but rather, "why should I want to?". That is, I'm asking "what's objectively wrong with same sex relationships?". Fod |
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