I think your problem is just that,YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND. If you take a good look at this world and you read your Bible we are all sinners and there is something in everyones life that is not compatible with being a Christian. I am not going to debate weather or not boylove is or not, But you said it "I don't fully understand" so maybe you should try to find out what Christian boylove is really about before you make such a judgment about people like us.
And if there is any thing in your life that someone else deems Incompatible with your Christian walk I guess that means you are going to hell as well. I am glad that Jesus is the one who judges us for He knows are heart YOU DON'T!