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Tom Perry

Posted by Eldad on 2009-02-08 10:26:18, Sunday
In reply to Notes from 'Chosen' posted by Eldad on 2009-02-08 10:05:47, Sunday

I was told during a film in the gym that he would come for me that evening. He did; I was told to come thorough - when I did I saw Peter Wright naked in bed with an erection and was invited in. Started with a French kiss - then went on to masturbate me - I had no idea what was happening. That having happened 'and failed' I was encouraged to do the same to him, which succeeded - and then dismissed back to his bed with a significant amount of confusion. Knows nothing about sex / facts of life / sexual abuse.

It didn't cross my mind to tell anyone; when you've gone ahead you've made the decision, and the guilt of the victim becomes significant. I had become complicit in the event.

The pattern of summons and doing stuff continued; it was a ghastly cycle but you step out of it at your peril - fear of the bully that he could be.
When you've crossed the line and got into that bed everything in terms of self worth, self respect, goes down the pan.

What he did to me and I did to him were shameful experiences which I don't want to discuss in detail - noone will benefit from knowing the detail.

The worst thing of all is that noone spoke earlier - and that I didn't speak earlier, and so stop others being abused. I was silenced by what I suffered,

Through choice I would not want to shed one tear for the damage that he has done to me; I don't want to give him the satisfaction [this reflects a clear belief that Tom believes that his abuser had no real affection for him, and was said in the context of Tom being obviously on the edge of bursting into tears]

I was 11 years old and I was complicit in the event.

You don't just groom the child, you groom the parents; if you are in visible contact with them, it reduces the probability that the child will speak out because they are seen as on the same side.

There isn't a day that passes when I don't think about what happened to me.

I attempt to keep busy to avoid having time to think - to face the emotional tsunami that is right behind you; if it catches you, you know you are going to be in trouble.

In 1999 /2000 a lot of publicity about the issue led to me telling a lady doctor that I had been abused - the first time I'd ever told anyone. Getting those words out of your mouth is astonishingly difficult. You need to find the space and the time and the motivation to do it.

The Selwyn Bell precedent in the British courts states that as a result of the passage of time the defendant cannot receive a fair trial if there is no contemporaneous evidence. The case against Wright was therefore stayed as an abuse of process.

What do paedophiles need to thrive?

Opportunity
Power
Secrecy

All these are easily available at a school.

Every parent assumes their child will be safe at the school they've chosen, and tend not to ask the hard questions. There is no obligation to report abuse to the police.

I'm not angry with Wright any more - there's no point.


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