you sound very certain of this. I however am a 'teeterer'. I did experiment with the gay scene in the early 80's and if I had had the maturity then that I have now I would have understood the need to put up with the absurdity of it in order to find a friend. I know its all 'ifs' but I am quite sure that many boylovers are so because of difficulties with their own sexual identities. I am certainly one of those.