Re: Age of attraction change

I've always been aware of age perspectives. When I was 11 I can remember looking up at 15 year olds and thinking how old and hairy and bulky they looked. They were big men in my eyes. Then for a long stretch 15 yos were my peers. Now, looking back at 40ish, 15 year olds look so young and each year they look younger. Even 18-20yo's are looking young to me now. It's only natural to me that this should have some impact on my AOA. I'm still fairly fixed at 8-13, but I've noticed some drift up and down from that, but it really depends on the boy. I notice that all the older or younger guys I find attractive have 8-13yo qualities. I know for certain that the idea of being gay (ie: attracted to men) does not appeal to me at all. Sometimes I get bothered when I like an older person... but I don't stress over it too much. I just wait for the next cute boy I see and then I have no doubt that it's business as usual. I have a lot invested in the whole "can orientation change occur" debate since my wife is convinced it's all a question of who you choose to be attracted to and I don't believe that at all. I find it distressing when these outside-of-usual attractions happen... but I've come to accept that they do and that really it is no reflection on my primary orientation. One of the things I've speculated over is that whilst the thought of sexing with an older guy is sometimes tempting, I don't think I would like it much past the initial contact. Once the thrill of the first encounter was past then all their "non-boyish" qualities would soon become overwhelmingly distasteful to me.... I get this idea from my experience with my wife. The real problem with our orientation labels is that we want to use them to predict how life will confront us and to maintain control, but life is always more complex than the terms we use to understand it. Roll with the developments brother and trust that God never gives us more than we are able to bear (1 Cor 10:13). Blessings Cat.