So what a weekend I had.

We started out talking separation and divorce and then things changed... like really changed.

A friend of ours wrote my wife a letter encouraging her to “suffer” the difficulties of our marriage to honour God’s will and not become hard-hearted (a prayer I've also been praying recently in regards to my own hurt in this situation). This came on top of a talk at church encouraging us to look at things from a spiritual view not a natural one and she had a great change of heart.

She stopped pushing the change agenda and offered me more acceptance than I’ve ever felt from her. What followed was some pretty open sharing and a really great weekend. We really do love each other.

I told her about how I love when she and I are together with my yf and how much I love that she’s making friends with him too. Your collective advice helped me to decided to tell her about the present and suggest we make it from both of us and she agreed. It was a positive experience, one I’d never have believed possible even just a few weeks ago.

The problems are still the same as ever, but she’s bearing them rather than running from them or trying to push me away. I finally have some solid hope... and we were so close to really splitting this time.

Of course it’s still too soon to be sure she won’t change her mind again... God have mercy... but this is a real change from our usual yo-yo because previously she’s wanted me to stay because she stops focusing on the issues, but this time she’s looking at them very honestly and admitting that separation seems logical.... but ungodly and unloving.
Time will tell.

Thanks SO MUCH everyone for all the advice and prayers.

Blessings
Cat.