I want both sex and intimacy.

Before I start I am going to be a lot stronger willed anyway. Strengthening my will is absolutely vital before strengthening my willy.

What is the sex like? I mean, do you ever GET intimacy at all or do people just try to get the job over and done with as quickly as possible so they can leave and shag someone else? In that kind of environment how can you find an emotional partner before he is snatched up by a deciever?