Why is it sinful to focus on the sexiness of a boy? I mean, if you have no intention of sexing him or even fantasising about him.

To use an analogy: I see a super hot sports car. It's not mine and I have no intention of stealing it or even touching it. But as it is parked there in the street, I have no problem going over and haveing a really good look at it and marvelling at it's beauty and design. I will even think... gosh I'd love to ride that or own it... but since it's not mine I won't.

Have I sined? I certainly don't think so.

What makes it sin just because the admiration is sexual? - especially since it's covered by the intent to be appropriate in thought and action.

Blessings
Cat.