A lot of people have a mix of boylover and other sexual nature, so that for example, I am gay and a boylover (bigenerational) and many friends have been hetero and also boylovers (bisexual). Most people have a bag of different impulses and turn-ons anyway, so it's best to take labels lightly. "Pedophile" is an especially threatening sounding one to most people these days, so if it scares you, don't get too narrowly focused on it.

Definitely if you're both turned on by, and romantically somewhat or very smitten by, a person of a certain sex and age group, you can include that type of person as being one of the objects of your sexual orientation. So if this boy turns you on and you're more than half in love with him, you're have a boylover aspect.

I've known many people who claimed to understand when they were young teens that they were boylovers rather than gay, and some of them were right while others turned out to be more typically gay. But some people can know very accurately when they're 14 or 16 that they are at least partly lifelong boylovers.

You get what you get in lotto sexuality, and everything can be handled somehow, so you might as well buy in and accept what you are and learn to bring good out of it (with the Lord's help if you choose to accept it).

There isn't any drug that has any effect on sexual orientation. Also, there is no behaviour-modifying regime that affects it either -- such things can overlay traumatized avoidance reactions as a sort of psychological shellshock -- but most people would prefer to keep their minds clear of that sort of junk.

Your 12 year old friend may very well be gay and have quite the crush on you, but you would both be put at incredible risk if you crossed the line about it. Really, you'd be much safer taking an Afghanistan cross country driving vacation together. He's already sneakin' around and it's just a question of when he's going to get caught and what he's going to get caught doing. Make sure that when that bomb goes off, there isn't enough powder in it to blow either you or him to smithereens.