You know, I always find it very difficult to believe someone when they come in here and say they are a BL but have no sexual thoughts about boys at all. I guess it is possible, but personally I find it very difficult to believe. My relationship with my YF was very much on the romantic side, but I stayed ways from the sexual things. But that dosen't mean I didn't have sexual thoughts about him. Did I ever feel that the sexual thinking was dirty? At that time I certainly did, but now I feel differently. It is what we actually do with our thoughts that counts, as far as I'm concerned. I like what you said...they are unholy but not dirty...yeah, I can see it that way too.