its great to see that you see yourself as emotionally rooted and strong, but your assumption that the rest of us are inadequate because we are not simply indicates to me that you might be at least marginally mistaken. This is a place where people come to talk about the one huge thing that they have to hide from almost everyone else. It is not fair that you ask them to clam up about that here as well. If people feel self-absorbed and fluctuating this is where they can come to write about it. Leave them alone.