Actually, as I thought back on it, I remembered at least one other person besides the one I was initially thinking of who was in the same boat. Unlike the one I previously mentioned, this one eventually discovered he was straight. So, it can certainly go either way and appears to be common enough an occurrence that it's happened at least twice in this tiny forum.

If you are a boylover then accepting your BL identity is a key step towards living a fulfilling life. But if you are not, then to accept yourself as a bl would be to accept a lie and the only thing that would do is set you back.

I think accepting yourself is one of the most critical steps in the path to fulfillment. But before you can do that, you need to figure out who you really are so that you can know what it is you are accepting. It would be a mistake to accept yourself as the wrong thing.