you may not be aware of the unique array of frustrations that goes along with having a perfectly functional (i.e., not intrinsically hampered) form of love-oriented sexuality, and being blocked from using it because it is mysteriously deemed sinful...

< sarcasm>Of course. Why would anyone on a forum for Christians whose love-oriented sexuality is not towards women know anything about this?< /sarcasm>

We stop ourselves not because of an ineffable, arbitrary sin that no one can explain in terms of a deficit of love, but because we might actually sin against the Christian rule of love by imposing sexuality where it is unwanted or otherwise intrinsically (not just conventionally) functionally/practically inappropriate.

Speak for yourself. "We" have a variety of reasons for living the lifestyles we live.