Eldad,

I hear what you are saying about fantaisising about real boys and I mostly agree that for me it's something I avoid because I don't want sex to be an issue with real boys I love... and fantasy may move things in that direction... so I'm cautious.

I do feel however, that just because you have a sexual fantasy about a boy you like in face to face life doesn't automatically mean you'd be weaker if a situation presented itself.

I still hold that in principle we can make a firm distinction between what is fantasy and what is real.

For me ... the danger is that my fantasy may influence my REAL desires.... and I want to avoid that.

Blessings
Cat.