Are you aware of The Bridge?

http://www.prsx.info/

Obviously, you should exercise due caution. There are people out there on the web who wish you harm, and any suggestion of illegal activity is asking for trouble. If you are suitably careful, however, this may be the best way to communicate personally with other BLs.

There's also a web-based ecumenical church run by one of the posters here, which is a very supportive and sensitive web-based community, though posters retain their anonymity: http://www.cjat.org