9Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders 10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Cor 6:9-11)
18Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. 19Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; 20you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body. (1 Cor 6:18-20)
Jonathan Mills says that a Christian does not take his identity from his sexual desires. It is what a man chooses to do that makes him who he is. I think this passage makes that clear.
Scripture does not speak of "sexuality" or "orientation" when it speaks of matters that constitute appropriate/inappropriate sexual behaviour... it speaks of acts that one chooses to do. "The sexually immoral" are not those who desire unholy sex... that would be everyone... they are those who practice it. There would be no purpose to the instruction to "flee" sexual immorality if there was no desire. The encouragement is not to practice it. Every thing in the list from vs 9-11 involves things practiced... not things desired. And that, says Paul, is what some of you WERE - note the past tense. We WERE practitioners of sin... we WERE unclean and unholy before God... we WERE guilty. But no more.
In Christ we learn to exercise self-control and "put to death" the sinful passions (Col 3:5)... by not practicing them anymore but instead honoring God with our bodies.
I am happy to say that I'm a boylover, because I do love boys.
I'm honest enough to admit that I am sexually attracted to them and desire romantic intimacy with them... but I don't PRACTICE the sinful actions I find amongst my desires. I used to be sexually immoral... I spent my whole childhood being sexually immoral. No more. As a Christian it's just not on. That I still want it does not make me a sinner. With sin I have a choice.
Father, there is so much to be enjoyed in Your creation. Even the stuff that hurts can have its own wonderful mixed in there. Self-control can hurt... denying the natural inclinations to sin can hurt... having to not love the boy we love the way we desire to lover him can hurt... but oh what is left!... What joy when we choose the holy path and love with holy love and friendship, what peace in our hearts when we exercise self-control and know we are living clean... and what reward in Heaven when we see You face to face and know that we have lived lives that honor You. We can't do this alone Dad... not for one second. Without You we can't do anything. Have mercy on us, forgive us the times we give in to our inappropriate desires, help us to have self-control, help us to honor You with our bodies. We ask this in Jesus name.