Perhaps we should be focussing on the Christian in our forum name and the love for people

I would hope that everyone here has other venues through which they can discuss or act on the more important issues. Christian fellowship is an integral part of the Christian faith, and I would hope that if not everyone, then at least most of those here would have a group of Christian friends with whom they regularly converse about other issues, or are in the process of making those friends.

When it comes to our attractions and relationships, this forum is often the only place Christian BLs have where they can talk about those things. Their network of Christian friends aren't going to understand and the risk if rarely worthwhile. Thus, why it is to be expected that well rounded Christians would post exclusively about such a topic here; because everything else they are able to deal with in other places.

our self-absorbed interest in our fluctuating emotional state, which seems to depend on whether one person responds to us positively or not.

Speak for yourself. That's not how I feel at all. While it may be how some people feel, I would hope it's not everyone here.

Is our happiness really so dependent on an immature boy?????

In my opinion, happiness is the result of living the life God put you on Earth to live.