Your point about people hating to be controlled is quite important I think, but in a slightly unexpected way because it has to do with relationship. When I look at married couples around me I so often see a controller and a controlled. Society is made up of those who control and those who are controlled and the battle of the individual is nearly always against control by others in one form or another: the constant battle for supremacy which, come to think of it, takes us back to your fave: Darwin. Ironically though, I think Jesus main purpose in his preaching was to turn this struggle on its head but in the most inexplicable way.
Whilst the rebel Jews (perhaps Judas was one) saw the Messiah as someone who would free them from Roman control (a Messiah who would take control then), the priests in charge had made a pact with Rome in order to keep a degree of control and Jesus was a threat to that. He made enemies of them all because his message was quite quite different. He told the rebels to give unto Caesar what is Caesar's, and he told the priests that they were whited sepulchres. He gave up control every time he opened his mouth.
I guess what I am saying is, its important to go back to the sources. The controlling God is surely just an image created by those who are in control: Marx's 'opium of the people' I suppose.
It's no mistake that God is above all a God of the poor, the outsider and the dispossessed.