And if you go down that route, it will come and bite you. The problem is that we tend to define sexuality purely in terms of genital contact, when it's actually a far wider thing. For a full discussion of what I'm getting at, I highly recommend, from an Evangelical perspective:

Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is) by Joshua Harris

whilst from a Catholic Franciscan priest:

Experience of Celibacy by Keith Clark

who both come to the same conclusion! Sexuality is a part of what we are. It's a part of what Jesus was. It's something that we need to work WITH - by bringing it into our relationship with God and using its energy in positive ways: Clark uses the phrase 'finding God concrete' to try and explain what he's getting at - that if we are willing to look to God in our struggles then we will find comfort in Him.

Which is not to say that there isn't a struggle; Clark argues that we are called to embrace loneliness, not to hide from it - but that in that we will grow closer to God.

But we also have to remember that in one sense we are no worse off than the married man mixing with attractive women; both he and we have to resist the temptations that are all around. But that doesn't mean beating ourselves up about the fact that we are tempted - it means beating ourselves up when we start mentally undressing the object of our desire, rather than - as works for me, at least on a good day - thanking God for the beauty of the person(!) I'm looking at and using the energy of that to pray for his good.

The other reality is that we need close friends, people with whom we are truly sharing our life. I'm blessed with several both on line (met via this board) and in real life, though it has not been easy to get to the point of having them there for me. But I do encourage you to make the effort to look (and pray) for such people to become a part of your life; we all need people with whom we can cry and to whom we can admit 'I'm thinking rather a lot about X at the moment'.

No it's not easy; despite certain preachers' propensity to suggest otherwise, Jesus invites us to a life of struggle, not undiluted prosperity. James' words: '2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.' (James 1) are not easy to hear...