has been to build relationships with boys at the top of my Age of Attraction and work to ensure that the relationship remains close despite their getting older. This has, for me, the effect of helping me to grow in appreciation of older boys / young men and reducing, through lack of opportunity, the attraction of youngsters. It's been a long term project, but it pays dividends. For me the crucial shift has occurred because of the group of 13/14 yos who are still around 14 years on...