I'm not sure what you mean by BL/YF relationships, because any close friendship with a boy could be considered either of these.

I'm fortunate enough to have a very close relationship with an 8 year old boy at the school I volunteer at. Through my vague understanding of the Love Language system, I think that he shows his friendship through "Quality Time", because whenever I come into his class, he's always asking me to help him with his work, even though I think we both know he's very capable of doing it himself. Obviously I come over to be with him, but I try to make him do as much of his work as possible. He might ask me to colour in a part of his drawing while he's looking for a different colour texta, or in the playground he might ask me what I want to do/play sometimes. Usually he asks me to play handball, though.

On several occasions, he's asked me when I can come over to his house, and I'm slowly building trust with his parents, who he's apparently talked to about me. They've asked for my phone number and said they would try to organise to - in my clumsy words - "kick a ball around or something".

Just yesterday we were watching Garfield as a class, and he wanted to sit with me, and he often sat in a way that was just touching me so that we could feel each other there. Whether or not he did this consciously, or just in order to see the TV better, I don't know. But that was a big buzz for me, since my "Love Language" is physical touch, but I've specifically told myself that I would focus myself on following his love language, rather than satisfying mine. Therefore, I've vowed never to make a sexual advance.

Ergo, a non-sexual relationship in which both of us are very satisfied.

Another boy, who's only 6, is my other special person in the school. He's very much a physical person, and the more I'm with him / the more personal attention I give him, the more he loves to look up at me and give me a big hug. He's obviously very short, so I try to anticipate his hugs so I can kneel down and return the hug properly. Otherwise it's just an awkward laying of my arms around his shoulders and the back of his neck.

I feel bad sometimes because both of them are fighting for my attention all the time in the playground, and it's hard to give it to them both because 8 wants to play handball or do "something" together, and 6 wants to show me something that he can do. I try to rationalise it by spending time with 8, and giving a big hug to 6, but if I don't spend time with 6, he might not want a hug, and might feel a little upset in the end.

So, when I'm playing handball with 8 (which requires about 4 people), I'll pay as much attention to 6 as I can when the ball isn't being played to me.

As for 6, I definitely won't be making it a sexual relationship, since he's so young. But there might be a tiny chance that it could develop in that direction in a few years - if I'm still around by that time - since his love language is clearly physical touch. In any case, I'll continue to display/return non-sexual physical affection so he knows I care, and we'll cross the sexual bridge if/when it comes.

If you want to know anything else, don't hesitate to ask. I WANT to talk about it more. :)