An experience that of itself could be positive is often spoiled and damaged by how it is perceived by society and the persons involved.

A boy in an AF/YF relationship that gets harassed by parents and law enforcement can suddenly feel abused when there was nothing abusive going on.

In the same way... I don't know that it was my marriage that damaged me per se... but the expectations and perceptions of what that marriage was and ought to be.

I suspect that were certain things done differently my damage would have been very different.

It hasn't been my marriage that has damaged me as much as my attempt to change my sexuality. If I'd gone in with no agenda to change it I think it would have been much better... as self acceptance is currently my agenda and as a result things are on the significant improve.

At the end of the day I think I agree with your conclusion... avoid advice... share my story.

Blessings
Cat.