(sorry, I misspelled her name earlier - Ethel, not Ethyl)

I think she would indeed follow the ideas that would have you medically arrested as a budding sex offender. (Though we both know if that was done to all kids who had your type of experience, the system would be completely overwhelmed, since there's actually nothing abnormal or rare about that sort of self-discovery.)

She believes that the essence of childhood completely excludes sex. Therefore, when it includes sex, the sex must be categorized as something else - violence, aberration, or contamination with adult ideas, perhaps through previous victimization. This is an epistemological catch-22 filter that blocks reality no matter what testimonial one gives.

Ho-hum is right.