Thanks for pointing that out. I don't see it as a problem at all, rather I find that it makes it all the more fascinating. I will probably have to read this book.

It doesn't surprise me that an outsider's view when colored through the prism of "sexual abuse" mentality would differ from that of the person actually going through it. It wouldn't be the first time I hear someone use the positive feelings of the "victim" as evidence that the abuse was so horrible the victim has been brainwashed into believing it was actually good for them.

Likewise, I would be more skeptical of the veracity of the work if it painted only a rosy or dark picture. Real life relationships are far too complex to be simply labeled "positive" or "negative" and any book that used only one brush with which to describe a relationship is unlikely to be very true to life. That's part of what I like about books like Running With Scissors or For a Lost Soldier, we don't get just the rosy image that bl activists would like to paint, nor the dark and terrifying image the sex abuse industry wishes you to have; we get an image filled with shades of gray, an image of a complex relationship with its ups and downs, positive components and negative ones. In essence, we get the real scoop and it is up to us to decide whether we view the experience as positive or negative overall.