I'm in mid-life somewhere. I've read a lot of vigilante pages citing people's age-of-attraction statements in shocked prose, so I've been cured of any urge to give out such information.

They, unlike you, don't care if someone is an abstainer or not. They've bought the line that we're insane and therefore our resolutions and insights are unreliable. But fifty years ago, they all would have been equally convinced that gays had no self-control or ability to have insightful relationships based on qualities other than lust.

There are always people around who are attracted to fearful myths about their fellow men and women.