I am not ashamed of being a boylover. I don't see it as an automatic negative.

But I do agree that the "disability" analogy has some solid application to our situation.

If you believe, as I do, that the God ordained companion for a man is a woman then being a boylover is a significant disability in being able to make that companionship (ie: a marriage) work.

Also, as boys come and go so quickly (because of their aging) and as they are less free to be in relationship with us (because of their dependance on their parents) I feel that we boylovers have to face potentially more grief over those we love than others who can potentially hold onto their loves for longer than we can and be with them more than we can.

Add to this societal demonising, lack of community support and resources, struggles with legal issues, and all the other pressures of being a significant minority and there are loads of obstacles we face that others don't and the lack of which they take for granted.

Being "disabled" doesn't mean bad or evil (at least it shouldn't in this generation) it means having bigger obstacles than others because of some part of one's make up that prevents one from functioning as easily as others. That's definitely me.

Blessings
Cat.