relationships are painful even with or without love

loving children will hurt because they cannot reciprocate the same depth or extract an equal meaningfulness

so to avoid hurting children you mustn't love them or be in their lives at all? but kids are everywhere, they are the future,

the trick is, the adult must absorb the pain, and this is not easy for everyone to do


feeling joy, including mild feelings of arousal while giving a massage to someone is not sinful, in fact it's just the opposite
to neglect or ignore the sharing of joy goes against God

we must massage them, and feel slightly aroused, without being overwhelmed with lust, and this is not asking to much of the man
this definitively measures manhood itself, along with absorbing pain to spare the child