"I was thinking to myself how bad it was to look at this boy and think about him while at church."

You mean like how I stare at the cute women in miniskirts standing in line for Communion?

First off, I'd like to say: this isn't a boylove problem, it's a human problem. All of us wrestle with this question of at what point appreciating beauty falls over the line into lust. Or what kind of relationships are appropriate (though obviously boylovers face this question in a more acute form).

I'm sure everyone here will give you their thoughts on the sexual relationship question; I'd only add that perhaps you should be speaking to a pastoral counsellor about this. I know that finding a pastoral counsellor (whether a clergy or someone else who has experience this) who doesn't scream "Molester!" the minute he finds out you're a boylover is a tough job. One person who's willing to talk with boylovers is Pastor Tim, who posts here, but it would be nice if someone knew you in real life who could help you through with any specific problems you had.

Being realistic and realizing that you're not likely to find much help in that area, my second suggestion is: keep posting. Post here and at any other support forums that you find helpful; if you click on the link at the top of the CBF Index to FAQ, and follow the link to Related Links, you'll find a list of support forums you can explore.

Thirdly, I think it's perfectly possible to say "no" to someone who makes a pass, and to make clear that you still like the person. Just ask all the guys who turned me down. :)

Heather