'It's my life!'
Submitted by Splash! on December 08 2000 22:51:42
In reply to Now you made me think again! submitted by Once a Boy on December 08 2000 19:18:55
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I know what you mean. I've heard this said to me many times by my young friend. Like I said, I practically smothered him. He never pushed me away, but there were many times he'd have to stop me and say, "It's my life. You can't live my life for me. Look... I'm going to be okay. You just have to trust me." Actually, I had to trust God. I was this kid's spiritual mentor -- I discipled him for many years. I taught him everything I could before he became a teenager, but then there came a day where he stepped out of the house and started making his own decisions. Many times he made decisions which made no sense to me. "I told you not to do that! I've been where you are now. Why can't you learn from me?" But, you know what? Every boy must learn for himself. They must take their own falls, get back up, and learn from their own experiences. This is how they grow. All we can do is trust that God will see them through it, and make ourselves available to them when *they* ask for it. I wanted so much to live my young friend's life for him! I would literally shake during those nights when he was out with friends. I worried so much for him. I often called him at his friends' house (when he stayed the night) to make sure everything was okay and to remind him to "Be good, Kid." But really, there's only so much we can do. My worry for him was neither healthy for him or me. Plus, it showed my lack of faith in God's blessing and calling over his life. As time went on, I learned to let go a little more -- though it was hard. It helped to get into the Bible and pray more. Whenever I felt more at peace in my relationship with the Lord, the more I felt at peace regarding God's guidance and protection over the one's I loved. You say that you've experienced this also. It helps puts some perspective on the situation -- and helps us be more "adult" about our feelings. I'm glad that I've been able to confirm and affirm this for you! ~Splash* |
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