Best Post!!
Submitted by GCFBoi on December 09 2000 20:36:13
In reply to Futures submitted by David on December 08 2000 03:20:08
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Wow. Guess what, I am one of the people you are praying for!! God laid it on my heart a while back that one of my missions in life is to do whatever I can to transform the understanding of boylove, so that it will be healed and functional again. Of course, I cannot do this alone. No, no, I am but one person in a much larger group of people who are working on this issue. The people at XY, for example, are another huge part of this process. But the other half of my mission is to work for the rights of gay youth. So I am equally concerned for both boys and boylovers. One of my goals is to re-integrate and re-teach people the understanding that, while there is such a sexual orientation as "boylove" to describe men who are attracted to boys, there is also another, parallel, sexual orientation, which is that of boys who love men. I don't know what to call those boys, perhaps "men-lovers" or just "gay kids", but anyway, the sooner people start putting the categories of "gay" and "boylove" closer together, the better off we will be. Of course there are differences, just as there are differences between "gay" and "lesbian", but boylove needs to be re-integrated into the gay-rights movement, if we are going to be successful. I wholeheartedly agree with this: 1) If you are not yet at a point where you can be around boys in real life without being overwhelmed with lust (I think only someone with emotional problems would fall into this category), please avoid boys until you have worked through your issues. Seek therapy if you can find it safely, or look for people to talk to on the internet, to help you learn why you are struggling with lust. 2) For boylovers who are not overwhelmed with lust, if you can be around boys without being distracted by sexual temptations, then by all means, spend time with boys. I am convinced that the only way that boylove will be accepted in this world is if as many boylovers as possible start forming healthy relationships with boys, so that people will be able to see that it can be done. You don't have to tell anyone that you are a boylover, just be one, and people will respect you if you can make a positive difference in a boy's life. There were so many older men who were involved in my life from a very early age, that I find it hard to believe that at least one of them was not a boylover. And I am a better person today because I had good role models as a child, and good friendships with adults. Please, use the gifts God has given you in whatever way your situation permits you to do safely. Love boys, care for them, help them, teach them, befriend them, and above all, listen to and respect them. Don't hurt them, but don't be afraid to love them. You know, God did not make boys beautiful by accident. One cannot just look at a boy, and see the beauty there, and think that it is just by chance. When you see a beautiful boy, and feel attracted to his beauty, you are reacting just the way God hoped you would. But God hopes that you will also channel those feelings for good, and not for your own selfish physical pleasure. As long as you put the boy's well-being ahead of your own, you will be fine. Relate on the boy's terms, and you will be fine. Here are some helpful Bible passages: "My child, keep sound the bloom of your youth, and do not give your strength to strangers. Seek a fertile field within the whole plain, and sow it with your own seed, trusting in your fine stock. Your offspring will prosper, and, having confidence in their good descent, will grow great" (Sir 26:19-21 [apocrypha]) "Let no one despise your youth, but set the believers an example in speech and conduct, in love in faith, in purity." (1 Tim 4:12) "...pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, endurance, gentleness. Fight the good fight of faith..." (1 Tim 6:11-12) "Shun youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with all those who call on God from a pure heart." (2 Tim. 2:22) Consider the relationship between Paul and Timothy as an example for you. Paul was an older man, Timothy was a younger man. This is a very good example in the Bible of a healthy relationship that involved age differences. |
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