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Submitted by Forgiven on January 28 2001 03:25:27
In reply to can you help me? submitted by smiley on January 28 2001 01:16:49
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We're a relatively slow board, so don't expect us to react too soon! OK - so I'm over 40 :-( - but a lot of the others are a lot closer to your age - there's at least 2 who are just 20, and at least one who's younger than you. Love and lust - what's the difference? It's perhaps the hardest issue for us. I've 3 specific YFs (young friends) at the moment, all straight; in one case there has never been a sexual element in the attraction, in the second there has been in the past, but it has faded away, and in the third, it is a significant component. So the first question I think you need to ask yourself is what the mix is with the boys you're spending time with. You've been abused yourself - so you know you don't want to go down that route with them. That's a good start - but you need to focus on that reality and not let it slip away if a sexual attraction strengthens. On a practical level, I've worked over the years to raise my AoA - age of attraction. I'd encourage you to do likewise - by spending time with the older kids and not younger. And to end on a serious point - yes in most jurisdictions it is as illegal for a 17 year old as for an older man. Anyway, welcome to the board, and I hope you'll find us an encouragement over the coming weeks. I'm in Europe, so I've only just got up :-) - so that's MY excuse for not replying sooner..... |
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