gay not gay
Submitted by F.O.D. on January 28 2001 07:53:52
In reply to Just a question .... submitted by smiley on January 28 2001 05:45:53
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Hello Smiley, nice to have you hear. This isn't a "chat room", so you won't generally be able to have real-time chats with people. It's a "forum", meaning you post your message, and in the course of the next day or so people will respond. So be patient :) As for ex-gay ministries and whether or not it's possibly to change from being gay, I'd say it depends on what you mean by change, and what you mean by gay. When it comes down to it (the way I see it), everyone is essentially bisexual, that is people simply fall in love with other people. So what do you mean when you say "gay"? Do you mean being utterly repulsed by any interaction with girls whatsoever? Insofar as ex-gay ministries encourage guys to get in touch with their hetero side... some might call it "change", I'd be more inclined to call it "human". Why shouldn't a "gay" guy be able to fall in love with a girl? The problem with ex-gay ministries is that they are often based on a flawed understanding of God's will for humanity. That is, they are based on the notion that you're an unfulfilled human being unless you're attracted to women. This perhaps isn't the case with all of these ministries, but it is increasingly the official position of Exodus ministries, from talks I had with one of their members. They call this "freedom from the gay lifestyle". The problem with that teaching is that is it far and away antagonistic to what the Bible says. Think of a dozen leaders in the Bible. How many of them are married? Given this flaw, any ministry the ex-gays try to have will inevitably be flawed likewise, leading to the situation where, for instance, John Paulk, an [now former] ex-gay spokesman for James Dobson's Focus On The Family, was found recently in a gay bar picking up guys. If a gay guy has met a nice girl he wants to have a serious relationship with, then fine. But trying to force himself to pretend to have feelings for a girl he could care less about is a road leading to despair for himself and agony for her. He should be mature enough to have enough respect for her not to pretend he likes her. Fod |
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