Re: Hey Jules
Submitted by Mark on December 12 2001 21:45:44
In reply to Re: Hey Jules submitted by Jules on December 10 2001 14:22:07
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Thanks for getting back to me, Jules. You may remember when I posted on CBF and asked the following: "What are ethical as well as pragmatic concerns about telling or not telling your YF or his parents that you are a BLer?..." You gave me a very nice response which I would like to print in Paraklesis. I'm including it below. Let me know if you give me permission to print it in Paraklesis, and if so, whether you have any changes you want made in it. Mark I once told a 14 y/o boy "I'm really fond of you" but neither of us discussed it further. When I continued being affectionate with him, in the end he couldn't work it all out and told his parents. The father's response (whom I knew well), as well as being shocked and angry, was "Why didn't you tell me?" Looking back, I think that would have been better. The boy wasn't really capable of understanding and dealing with what I told him or with my attention. I suppose he couldn't quite make out whether it was innocent or not, and whether it was supposed to be a secret or not. To be honest I didn't really know either. But telling his parents would have helped. We could have agreed a way of preventing it being a problem for the boy. --Jules |
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